Does God have one soulmate picked out just for you?

One of the big questions that came up this last Sunday morning during a junior-senior girls small group discussion that I was a part of was…”Does God have one specific person picked out for you to marry, or should we just be focused on the type of person that God wants us to marry?”  What a provacative question for teeangers to already be thinking about and discussing.  I was so proud of the way my girls handled and answered the question…and how the adult leaders listened and offered biblical counsel to the girls.  Here’s my two cents on the question…

So does God have a specific person picked out who we’re supposed to find and marry, or does He want us to marry a specific type of person spelled out in Scripture?  In other words…am I looking for my soulmate or are there many who will fit into our marriage requirements? Continue reading

Could They Be Creepin?: What to do if you think you’re being cheated on

I had a question from a college student who asked what he should do if he thinks his girlfriend is cheating on him.  I assured him I know exactly what to do since I’m 31, single, and have gone through basically every dating situation imaginable!  I totally exagerrating.  I don’t know EXACTLY what to do, but I gave it a shot.  Here’s what I told him…and obviously this translates to the girls as well about their boyfriends:

Here’s how I look at it. You just need to first of all PRAY that the truth will come out, or that God will give you a peace about it.

Secondly, you need to be straight up honest with her. If you can’t do that, then the relationship isn’t worth it, ya know? You need to tell her what you’re feeling and what you fear. If she truly cares about you, she’ll handle it right.

Third, if neither of those seem to bring the relationship back together where it should be, then you need to do some real thinking. Here’s the deal, if you have a girlfriend who is a little dishonest…then she’ll be a wife who is very dishonest. Also, you don’t ever want to be in a relationship where you’re always scared, where you always doubt, and where you never have peace about her integrity. So if those don’t get better, I say just get out for your own peace of mind. No one needs to live like that who isn’t married.

I just want you to have the most amazing marriage ever with great kids and a loving wife…and all of yall loving each other and loving Christ. But great marriages come from great dating relationships. If it aint great, get out, and wait for one that is. Ya hear me?

Storyline #2 – Genesis 1-2 – Being Human Rules!

Free files for youth pastors:
Humanity rules! Napoleon Dynamite is a fictional movie character that is known for his jeans tucked into his ski boots, teased and curly red hair, and hilarious movie lines that were adored and quoted by teenagers across our entertainment riddled country. When Napoleon took a liking to something, he brought back one of the ever popular retro sayings by exclaiming something like, “Tater tots rule!” The same can be said for humanity by looking at Genesis.
Is humanity something far more than we’ve thought if we’ve used phrases like: “I can’t help that I’m forgetful, or sinful, or full of mistakes. I’m only human. Gosh!” What does it really mean to be human? How did God originally intend humanity to be and live? If we want to live for God in our skin, bones, eye balls, etc, then we must know what God has commanded from us from the beginning! Please read Genesis 1:26-2:25. Continue reading