10 Steps for Students from Godly Attraction, to a Godly Relationship, to a Godly Marriage

1. Attraction: Be attracted to godly opposite sex only. The best way to be more attracted to a godly person of the opposite sex is to love Jesus more. The more you grow in your love for Christ, the more you will want to worship, serve, and obey Him. The more you want to worship, serve, and obey Christ…the more you will want to be with someone who shares your love for Him. Don’t waste your time with those who don’t love Christ, who don’t love the church, and who don’t love His Word.

2. Ask Out: Guys, ask the girl out. Ladies, don’t be the one who asks the guys out. You can make yourself available to him by simply saying, “If you asked me out, I’d say YES!” If the guy you like doesn’t ask you out, then he either doesn’t like you enough to ask you out, or he isn’t man enough to have you. Guys, ask the girls out from the beginning to establish your spiritual leadership from the get go.

3. Move Slow: It is straight up scary to watch how fast teenagers today get into exclusive relationships. It can be as easy as…I like you. I like you too. Want to be my girlfriend? Sure, thought you’d never ask! Yeah, that’s totally ridiculous. Relationships aren’t about dating, but relationships are about marriage. Start thinking through if you really want to be with this person. Pray through it a lot. Ask God what He wants you to do. Trust Him that He’ll work it out in His time. Get into relationships slowly, prayerfully, and thoughtfully!   Continue reading

cbsm sermon video on esther 2-10 (for the love: way more than heroes and villains)


This is our latest sermon video uploaded to vimeo by our UPLOAD team. You’ll see how Esther is one of the most dramatic, suspenseful, and epic stories of all the Bible…and how it points us to Christ…AND how it applies to our lives of relationships, dating, love, and marriage. Enjoy!

Storyline #74: Esther 2:19 – 10:3 “For the Love: Way More than Villains and Heroes″

Free files for youth pastors and small group leaders: https://storylineframework.files.wordpress.com/2010/02/2-esther-2-10-villains-and-heroes-mp3.mp3 (download @ “CBSM Podcast” on iTunes podcasts)

2 – Esther2-10 – Villains and Heroes (handout)

2 – Esther 2-10 – For the Love (notes)

2 – Esther 2-10 – For the Love (commentary)

2 – Esther 2-10 – Villains and Heroes (service)

2 – Esther 2-10 – Villains and Heroes (small groups)

Esther sermon intro video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xMDK6e6o4D0